Showing posts with label A Dash of Staph. Show all posts
Showing posts with label A Dash of Staph. Show all posts


How to Let Go of Painful Memories and Feel Less Pain

Past relationships, choices and injustices can settle on every aspect of life like a wave of volcanic ash, however, this trick has always helped me uproot painful moments and I hope it will help guide you towards a brighter, more promising future:

In the past, when someone wronged me, I would feel an intense urge to seek revenge. But, ultimately  I decided that's not the person I want to be. I admit, trying to right old wrongs can be satisfying in the moment, but its hardly conducive to moving forward, and can sometimes pull you into a deeper sort of emotional quicksand. So my trick for eliminating painful memories is to write them down on a piece of paper, light a match and set them on fire. There's just something so freeing about watching those heavy burdens literally go up in smoke. 

What are your tips for dealing with painful moments? I'd love to hear about them!


Happy Thanksgiving, Friends!

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

I certainly have loads to be thankful for this year, I've been blessed in so many different areas of my life. I'm looking forward to a wonderfully slow and lazy Thanksgiving day with my family. Can you think of anything better, right now? I wish you all the same warmth and happiness.

As always, thank you for your continued support! Happy Holidays!

(Photo via The Effortless Chic)


Would You Go See A Movie Alone?

Why is the thought of going to the movies alone so terrifying? Don't get me wrong, I understand the anxiety. After all, movie theaters are the epicenter of relationships, usually swarming with couples, young and old. So, it can be quite unnerving showing up without an entourage or at the very least, another person.

During my undergraduate studies, a classmate of mine was so shocked when I told her that I had a penchant for going to the movies alone. To me, it was just something I had been doing for as long as I can remember. To her, there was a stigma attached to the act because going to the movies alone was solely reserved for sad lonely women, spinsters.

I'm comfortable doing most things alone. I think it's so important to teach yourself how to function without the support of another, especially in situations in which having another presence is usually the norm. People often praise those capable of effortlessly navigating different social situations but I think there's also something so endearing about those individuals who are comfortable with all the silence.

I used to try this little trick during uncomfortable situations: I would allow myself to feel every anxious feeling that arose and worked on finding some comfort within them. Sometimes it would work and I would find  little ways to abate those anxious feelings and sometimes, it would not. However, those times it did work, I would feel a sense of victory, like I had solved one of life's little mysteries.

I'm curious, does  the thought of going to the movies alone make you cringe? or do you consider it a brazen act of empowerment?

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Feeling Stuck

Lately, I've been laying in bed, all da Vinci's Vitruvian Man-like, feeling frustrated about life. I'm especially anxious about where I 'am right now, which isn't necessarily a bad place. I'm a little less than a year away from graduating from grad school and re-joining the business world. But, I always thought I'd have everything I always wanted by now, especially career-wise. I'm even more anxious about where I will be. It's normal to feel like this, right?
Lo and behold, while browsing a few of my favorite websites this morning, I came upon one of Shoko's insightful posts which happens to sum up exactly how I feel at this point in my life. It helps to know that I'm not alone.
Have a great MLK day!
 (Picture via here)


25 Things About Me!

1. Sometimes, I forget to eat. I don't have an eating disorder or anything but I get so engrossed in whatever I'm doing that the whole eating to survive thing just gets away from me. It's a terrible habit, I'm working on breaking myself out of it.

2. I love, love, love to read! my favorite book is Pride and Prejudice, I just fell in love with it after I
read it in high school.

3. I also love, love, love to write. I thank you all for stopping by my little corner. I appreciate you, all of you. Yes, even you anonymous.

4. I think the right side of my face is significantly less attractive than the left.

5. I'm the grouchiest morning person you will ever encounter. I'm also quite clumsy, I fall all the time. The last time I took a tumble (a few months ago), I ended up in the emergency room.

6. I love trying new restaurants! I don't understand why certain people decide they absolutely hate a dish without ever trying it.

7. I will give the homeless all of the money in my purse. I cannot walk by someone who's in obvious need of help without thinking "what if that were me?" wouldn't I want a stranger to lend me a helping hand?

8. I'm loyal, to a fault.

9. It's easy for me to detach myself from others once I've been wronged by them. I can't explain it, once something I deem unforgivable happens, I just feel nothing. My mom's the same way, perhaps it's hereditary. On the bright side, (bad) breakups are a breeze.

10. Whenever I'm sad, I lock my room, put on my iPod and dance to Katy Perry's "Firework" in my undies." Her latest single "Roar" works too. Don't judge me.

11. When I'm in a terrible mood, I go to Bryant Park. I can't explain it, but it just makes me feel better.

12. I always make a wish when I see a full moon. "When you wish upon a star, doesn't matter who you are."

13. As a child, I thought I'd grow up to write the next great American novel. I figure still have plenty of time.

14. I used to get debilitating anxiety attacks, to the point where I would avoid other people. I still get them from time-to-time but I've learned how to better manage the episodes.

15. I collect snow globes. I used to have an extensive collection but they were unfortunately stolen. I'm 100 percent sure I know who the culprit is. I'll let the snow globe gods deal with him. Yes, it's a he.

16. I was fluent in French when I was younger, not so much anymore.

17. I love fashion but hate going shopping. I buy most of my clothes online.

18. I hate wasting time, I hate it even more when others try to waste my time. Time is precious, people.

19. I cannot stop plucking my eyebrows, eyelashes, etc... when I say pluck I don't mean with a tweezer, I literally pull my brows and lashes out with my fingers. I think it's a disorder called trichotillomania. Yikes!

20. I cannot handle my liquor, at all.

21. I'm a bit of a nerd but I embrace it, wholeheartedly.

22. I love to travel but I'm absolutely terrified of flying.

23. I always carry a toothbrush, toothpaste, and deodorant in my handbag. Hey, you never know.

24. I'm in the process of completing a masters degree and although I said I wouldn't, I'll probably end up getting a PhD in the future.

25. I almost drowned in a pool when I was younger. Whenever I go to a pool party or the beach, I seldom get in the water. People always look at me like "what's wrong with you, Stapha." I'm afraid, ok.



I woke up this morning and after a glorious full-body stretch, I realized that I haven't really tackled relationship issues on Perception in Print. So, I will make ample effort to include more relationship-related posts as well as some personal stories, soon.

Meanwhile, seven tips for a healthy and happy relationship.
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What Staph Likes

Pink wedding dresses for the not-so-traditional bride.

Not a fan of sardines? perhaps this interesting twist will change your mind. Here's another.

I'm seriously craving these Jacques Torres chocolate chip cookies. They are so good, possibly the best cookies I've ever had.

My credo for this year. Plain and simple.

Claire Danes' cry face. Pretty funny.

Are you mentally strong?

Proof that less is more, at any age.

Mojito jello shots poured inside carved out lime rinds. Um, genius!

The Quiet City, a breathtaking video about the beauty of Paris. I love the slow pace of this video.

Rare nude photographs from Edward Weston of ladies in the early 1900s, they didn't shave their legs, armpits or..., well, take a look. It must have been so freeing.
(Picture via here)


What Do You Do On Snow Days?

Some New York residents woke up to nearly a foot of snow today. The good news (depending on who you ask) didn't end there because with snow days comes school and work cancellations. Yay!
When I was younger snow days were filled with mystery and intrigue. I suspect it's because I only had to look forward to snow angels, snow men and sledding instead of shoveling snow in the bitter cold. Fortunately, I didn't step foot outside today because my mother's boyfriend took care of the shoveling, without being asked. Thank you, mister!
How did you spend your snow day? Did you stay indoors and nursed a steaming mug of cocoa while watching rom-coms like I did? Or were you outdoors shoveling snow?
(Pictures via here)


Hello 2014!

Where did you ring in the new year? did you celebrate at home like 54 percent of Americans did this year or did you venture out into the frigid weather? I did the latter, note to self: remember you're not a drinker, also, remember this dull, pounding migraine if you ever decide to pick up a drink again.

What are your thoughts on new year's resolutions? I don't bother with them because I think they're so finicky and why do most of them usually focus on our physical appearances? Personally, I think we should strive for self-improvement everyday. It's less pressure-filled that way.

Happy New Year!
(Picture via here)


No More NYC Horse-Drawn Carriages In 2014?

Horse-drawn carriages may no longer be a part of the iconic New York landscape in 2014. Advocacy groups like PETA who have consistently petitioned against the industry may soon get their wish because NYC Mayor-elect Bill de Blasio wants to ban the long-standing Central Park tradition, calling it "inhumane." He offers to trade the horse-drawn carriages with antique-style electric cars, which I think, is just as aesthetically stunning.

I certainly understand the mayor's concerns for the horses but I will miss seeing those majestic creatures parade around Central Park if this ban goes into effect in the new year. However, that permeating barnyard stench, I can definitely do without.

De Blasio is set to take office Jan. 1, 2014. Do you agree with him, should horse-drawn carriages be outlawed in NYC?

(Pictures via here)


Wishing You A Very Enlightening New Year!

I was planning on spending the new year at home in my PJ's but a friend of mine is in town and insists that we celebrate in style. How will you be ringing in the new year? whatever you do, be safe my darlings.
Here's to growing smarter, wiser and stronger in 2014. Happy New Year!
(Pictures via here and here)


How Was Your Christmas?

I hope you all had the merriest of Christmases! Just curious, what do you plan to do with those presents you didn't quite want?

What are your thoughts on re-gifting? Personally, I would feel terrible about passing on my unwanted presents to someone else, no matter how terrible they are. But, in case you have no problem with the idea, here's a crash course on re-gifting 101.

(Picture via here)


Merry Christmas!

I can hardly believe it, Christmas is nearly here!
What are your plans for the holidays?
I just returned from a fun night of ice skating at Bryant Park! A few buddies I haven't seen in years were in town so we decided to get together to reconnect and reminisce about old times. It was so good to see everyone!
I wish you all a very Merry Christmas!

(Pictures via here, here and here)


Farewell, Nelson Mandela

Nelson Mandela, anti-apartheid icon and former president of South Africa died Thursday at 95 years old. There are so many things I can say about this legend but it's best if I let him do the talking. His words are much more eloquent and powerful than mine could ever hope to be:

On his ideals

"During my lifetime I have dedicated myself to this struggle of the African people. I have fought against white domination, and I have fought against black domination. I have cherished the ideal of a democratic and free society in which all persons will live together in harmony and with equal opportunities. It is an ideal which I hope to live for. But, my lord, if needs be, it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die."

On becoming an anti-apartheid leader

"I had no epiphany, no singular revelation, no moment of truth, but a steady accumulation of a thousand slights, a thousand indignities and a thousand unremembered moments produced in me an anger, a rebelliousness, a desire to fight the system that imprisoned my people. There was no particular day on which I said, 'Henceforth I will devote myself to the liberation of my people'; instead, I simply found myself doing so, and could not do otherwise."

On revenge

"You will achieve more in this world through acts of mercy than you will through acts of retribution."

On leadership

"The first thing is to be honest with yourself. You can never have an impact on society if you have not changed yourself. ... Great peacemakers are all people of integrity, of honesty, but humility."

On racism

"No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite."

On hatred

"As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison."

On courage

"I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear."

On prison

"It is said that no one truly knows a nation until one has been inside its jails. A nation should not be judged by how it treats its highest citizens, but its lowest ones."

On freedom

"To be free is not merely to cast off one's chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others."

On hope

"It always seems impossible until it's done."
The history of apartheid, here and "His Day is Done," a tribute poem for Nelson Mandela by Maya Angelou.

(Pictures via here)


Jean Claude Van Damn!

This Volvo commercial featuring Jean Claude Van Damme is incredible. Shot at sunrise in beautiful Spain, Van Damme nailed the "epic split" in just one take. For some reason, I'm so moved by this commercial.


Farewell, Dear Friend

I just learned some very sad news, Marilyn Hill, a former co-worker and dear friend of mine passed away this morning. There's no doubt in my mind she's with God. She was an incredibly pious and gracious woman. It was my pleasure to have met her. Rest in peace, Mrs. Hill.

(Picture via here)



What Staph Likes

Fantastical fashion illustrations from Paper Fashion!

Everyone, gather around the camp fire one last time! Here's some inspiration: The Art of Camp Cooking.

A boy who fell for a girl reading a book, so sweet. Read it here.

Breathtaking Parisian rooftop!

Chocolate Bailey's mud cake...I can die now!

An enchanting video titled Tales of Endearment about charming designer, Diane Von Furstenberg.

How to turn old candle jars into a chic d├ęcor. Isn't recycling grand?

The anatomy of a Dior bag!

Want to tour Paris like a local? here's how.

Delectable bone marrow, have you ever tried this stuff? it's like ambrosia.

This is how you brighten up a rainy day, cherry blossom girl style!

(Picture via here)


Hello, Autumn!

The time has come when we transition from the balmy summer air to the sharp twinge of winter.
Pretty soon, bears will binge on food and retreat to their den for the duration of winter. And, birds will migrate towards the equator to bask in more tropical weather. Like hibernating animals, we also undergo a similar sort of winter lethargy (chilly weather along with 6:00 p.m. sunsets tend to attract sluggish inactivity). If we're lucky, we might just get a visit from Indian summer before winter commences. But, I'll be fine either way, autumn is my favorite season!
(Pictures via here, here, here, here and here)


What Staph Likes

Butterfly cinemagraph, how pretty!

The wisdom of hands.

How to make homemade ricotta cheese, it's so simple!

A site dedicated to burgers, very "hood" indeed!

How the Brady Bunch lives, not those but these.

Edge up any outfit with this.

That indescribable, homey, euphoric feeling you get when you smell a bouquet of lavender, aah...

Model-Morphosis, check it out!

Not current on the latest music? get in the know with Quickcrit.

Priscilla Ahn - Dream, listen.

“ I was a little girl
alone in my little world
who dreamed of a little home for me.
 I played pretend between the trees,
fed my houseguests bark and leaves,
and laughed in my pretty bed of green.
I had a dream…that I could fly
from the highest tree.
I had a dream.”
lyrics from: dream
(Photograph of Austro-American actress and inventor, Hedy Lamarr, via here)
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